My secret of life....

The nicest thing in our lives is having a nice heart. we should always strive to be that. I felt that our voices can be heard only when you put them in actions. I learnt yoga from my Father when I was back in India. I lost it after coming to United States. His visit last year again changed me all together and made little difference. He said by yoga and being nice to people and hearts around keeps you happy and healthy. I kind feel that I'm more mature than before. I shall try to cultivate more and harvest more good. I love to be what I'm and that's why I started to write and share more on this blog. you are most welcome to read and ask questions if you have any. Love and Live happily!

Vasu

Relationships and Soulmates

.....................................................................Heart's Beat time
Love and Relationships are two entities that need to go hand in hand. The most wonderful and the best things in life all depend on relationship; it is our ability to create and maintain for the best to come in our lives. Two persons living together brings a small world into them, success, happiness and the ability to give and receive love all hinge on our relationships. We must have noticed that during our initial phase of our relationship we are really good in keeping up things but it kind withers slowly as the time passes. We take for granted for the most part. That is where we are not fastening the grip, holding the emotions and are being care free. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the the start. But why do we so often stumble down the road? Why relationships develop such challenging problems? Why? Don't we understand the importance of it. What is the difference when you are in love before marriage versus when you are in love after marriage? Is that Love different? What is that makes us different persons in the same love during different periods of our relationship?

Different people will have different reasons but for the most part there could be one most common cause our own inner self. It is through our relationships, including intimate love relationships, family relationships, work relationships, and all others we interact with, that we see reflections of our inner self, and learn the laws of cause and effect. Our heart desires so many things and eagerness for its fulfillment can cause the relationship to go in either ways. The vital desire to fulfill thy human heart in growing sense of intimacy, love and tenderness with a beloved is all time the most sweetest thing. There's a longing for a union of spirit, soul and body which would allow the passion, pleasure and playfulness of the cosmos to dance through our being, to assist us in re-awakening to our innate divinity, to dissolve feelings of separation, isolation, and assist us in manifesting our soul purpose.

We all might have heard about "True Love" this phrase is yet interesting but more confusing for all you there these days. Often observations of the world today seem to indicate that there are more people getting divorced, getting cheated on, and breaking up than there are happy couples that are in love and stay in love. If we base our idea of what true love is on children's fairy tales, we might think that finding prince charming or an enchanting princess and living happily ever after is the ultimate goal. Movies often portray this same storybook image- that falling in love is really just that: falling, out of control, toward that one person who is meant to be with you and you alone. But for most mortals, striving for such ideals is unrealistic, and may even leave us feeling unfulfilled or let down. The reality is that being and staying in love takes continual work and patience, even though this might not seem utterly romantic, in that storybook sense. Couples who have healthy relationships find ways of working together, and this in and of itself could be considered a sign of true love.

True love is so powerful that we can only feel it if we are in. It's true that in many cultures, people who are "in love" create long-term partnerships and/or get married. We may hear of the ever-rising divorce rate, but lots of these couples do actually stay together. Yes, there are couples that have been married for 70 years and still feel passionately in love, and there are others who care deeply for one another even though the lust is gone( or maybe never existed). These long-lasting relationships really do exist, but we just don't hear about them as often. Most of the time, people talk more about the break-ups than the relationships that maintain themselves over many years because it makes far more interesting( and profitable for media) gossip. Of course, sometimes we may not even want to hear about the happy, lovely-dovey couples because we're feeling romantically unlucky or lovelorn ourselves.

We change as an individual a whole lot as we grow. That holds true also when we are in a relationship. It could be selfish, more desires or more able ones but we never look deep enough in the present relationship and work hard to stay in it. Most relationships don't last are as varied as the different kinds of people we are; in many cases, the partners simply grow apart because they have grown and changed as individuals, and seek different, more fulfilling opportunities for love. If a particular couple "falls out of love", yet each partner goes on to seek a more satisfying love with another person, could this be an example of "true love" in action?

Love can also vary by degrees: some couples feel deeply intense and passionate, while others appreciate one another for intellectual reasons or admire one another's ambition, dedication, or creativity. When is the last time you read a fairy tale where the main characters appreciated each other's brilliant musicianship, eloquent writing, or compassion for humanity? ( Well, maybe in Shakespeare's writings). God has created for every human being their soul mate it is how we handle it and it is our own karma's that will determine things. Yes it is true. Sometimes we don't know how to recognize our soul mate and that is very normal because we are different human beings during different periods and phases of our lives. We can feel the connection right away when we see the other person or it may take time to feel it but we will ultimately feel it because our manual tells us that these feelings and spiritual signals are and how to recognize them when we meet or think about them. For some they realize when their soul mate is gone from their lives. Some just look into it as a benefit, how comfort it is to maintain the relationship, they always fool themselves regarding their soul mate. I knew a lady who traveled all the way from America to Europe to find her soul mate. For a relationship to work or to be with your soul mate needs lots of work, patience and effort. In relationship we enter not to get something out of it, to give to care, to love and to be loved. We enter in to relationship to see the real happiness of being together with soul mate, to offer more everyday and the feel that love which is a gift and right which we are blessed with. The beauty of being in relationship with soul mate is: Soul mates are lovers who are twin souls or like a part of you- your other half. They are two people created for and with each other in mind. Unless they are together, they will always feel empty even in another relationship. This relationship makes both of them feel complete and fulfilled. Soul mate lovers have been found to be much happier, live longer and enjoy better intimacy. Soul mates increase each others self esteem and confidence and live longer and healthier.

……in next chapter Unhealthy relationships…..

LOVE - All time greatest gift to us:

..........................................................................Don't know the time

Let the pleasant heart sing at least now:

There is a lot of happiness in this world, we just can't visualize it. The power and strength to imagine for anything lies within us. Yes within us. Let me focus you to the most wonderful thing that can happen to anyone. That flows into our heart and feels so deep. Yes it is Love. The warmth, the feeling and pain is so felt in it that one can only feel it when he/she is in it. You get the Joy from making your love happy. You will have no interest in others who would normally attract you. You like and you long to be in your love's arms every second of the day and night. The only thing that you imagine is be in love's arms all possible breaths you can. This feeling is something you can only feel as if it is inside an abstract part of you body, beyond descriptions, beyond words, beyond even realizing, it is something that you feel like your feelings are physically coming from your heart and feel the slightest pain in heart when you are not in love's arms or you missing you love. You long to hear, you think of your love and smile no matter how hard the day was or what the situation is. It is something that all the imperfections seems to be perfect fo you. The whole world could be wrong for you. This world has seen millions of stories about love but every story of love is unique in its own way. Love has sustained so many phases of human feelings, so many turmoils but yet still love is steadfast for so many people. Some times some things over come it but sometimes situations win but that soft corner that abstract part of body still has those everlasting and indelible strains that will and shall ever be in thy's heart.
We all have witnessed or might have felt it at some point of our lives. That is the beauty of it and that is the beauty of our hearts. To love is nothing. To be loved is something. To love and be loved is everything. When you are in love you can listen to your heartbeat. Every heartbeat sounds you like you are in love and you feel it is song. It is worth waiting hours to see love for a minute. It is like waiting for hours to see her in the street that she goes to School. Just for that glimpse of her. Just for that one instance of eye contact. Just for that one instance of smile that takes you away from you your breath. It is that worth. It is like this, to the world you may be one person but to one person you may be the world. That is the feeling that love gives us. We are so lost in it that we don't want to come out of it and as I said it is worth. Of all the wonderful creations of the god love is the most wonderful gift that he has given to us. The best way I can put for love beyond expressions or words is the love between two birds on a twig, two animals. They cant speak like we do but yet they are never short of expressing. Their eyes their gestures their effort in expressing tells us how much they do love. We are humans, we are more gifted than any living entity in this universe. Let thy heart flow and let it come.

The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they're alive.I've seen so many stories of love about my friends from my school age. Some could express and for the most part they failed. Some never expressed their love till their love became someone's else love or she left the town. I know someone who loved the girl for 15 years yet never expressed her, the interesting thing is he went to her to school, college and university as well. They were neighbors. We all love someone for some it is tough for some it is beyond imagination and for most people it is fear to bring it out. Though love is pleasant but yet it is so furious at times. I know a friend who engraved her name in his forearms, not just scratching but engraving her name one tenth of an inch in his forearm. Yet he was never even close to let her know that he loved that much. Not only this there are so many other instances that made me to write this article about love. I have written hundereds of love letters to my friends all the way from School to University level. Even some failed because they were late in expressing in time. I know someone who loved truly for few years but could not spend the rest of their lives together.

The whole idea behind this article is let those feelings flow. If I can make a difference to anyone in any sort then I feel it has some weight in it.

Love and Relationship to be continued in my next chapter…..

Vaschakki's Evolution!

..........................................................................August 2003

Lost in thoughts, wandering in dreams....looking at the peak!!!

I always remembered that you are unique just like everyone else and at the same time not to chase two rabbits because I end up catching none. I had dreams just like any other human soul so decided to puruse in that way. There was not even a slightest ray of path. So knew the best way to predict the future is to create one But also to have everything is to possess nothing. I was kind wandering what to do and how to do. Don't misunderstand that all who wander are lost. My biggest weapon is passion to do and love to do what I am doing as we know that the most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. So love what you do and love what you love in doing.

It was the time when the money I had to meet my living expenses are sinking from the stockpile. Forget about paying the Semester fee. The sand beneath my feet is sinking, feeling the heavens on my shoulders...taking one foot further become tough...life all of a sudden became a question. I need to do something to meet my tution fees and to feed myself. I had no other choice but to do part time Job at the cost of my credits and GPA. It was August 2003 and I got a Job in a Mall( Ford City Mall in Lachigo now Chicago). It was with the help and reference of Vishu my friend. Things may not seem bad until you feel and you face it. I did and it was bad time. I had to catch two buses and one train( Orange line) to reach Ford City Mall. Chicago is notorious for its bad chilli wind...that's why it is called Windy City. Standing at the Bus Stand in a chilli wind around 10.30 to 11.30 PM for last bus to reach my Apartment was the most painful thing that I ever felt. I wish I be a girl to cry but was a strong man. No one were there to console me that these days aren't permanent. If I miss that Bus I'll have to wait half an hour more or catch another bus but that will drop me in South Commons. I had to walk all the way to my Apartment complex in South King drive. That way is not the safest. if I miss can I afford all this?...I cant! can I catch a cab and reach my place?. I had to pay what I earned the whole day. Yet sometimes I missed the bus. I did catch another bus and walked all the way. See it is tough in its own way and in its own world.

The most touching and striking things also happened. In the Mall I met this pretty young Lady who also goes to School and works there. After few months of working and knowing her I told my problem. She understood and sometimes closed my store so that I can catch early bus and avoid all the problems. The point here is that Pretty Lady doing that little act of Kindness. Had she not done that I would have missed the bus some times and I....can't even think now.

......so I never misse the bus....that act of kindness is the biggest thing for me during those days....thats another chapter another act of kindness that I felt from her and also other friend Baseer who also helped me during those days...so these acts made me to be more good human being and more truthful and more sweet in kindness than before. Thus grew my love more stronger towards friends and caring.

she was Datta Dave...a Gujarati Brahmin girl. I really admire her. I became a very good friend to her and she even used to share her lunch with me most of the times. I used to help her with her assignments. Baseer also had similar issues but Allah took care of him very well. Just think how touching and soothing it is when you think. we all have such instances that one took care of us at some point of life where we needed some help....remember and thank him now and pray for him/her. I do this....closing eyes and remember those events.....Life is beautiful! we can make it the more beautiful and God will make it the most beautiful as long as we do what is correct.

..........................................................................November 2003


Ladders of Success:

I used to do assignments of school in the Toy Store when there was no business. I also improved the business of Great Collectibles( Toy Store). My pay was $5.50 per hour. I was told that if I do well I'll get a hike to $6.00. I did really good during the slow season. I was so happy that I got my pay rise to $6.00 after couple of months. Now I had money not only to meet my living expenses but also to constuct Hanuman Murti(Statue) which is around $1000 dollars. Life went little easy but had big dreams lots of hope.

I always believed that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It is no the darkness inside the tunnel which is permanent. This Part time Job is like the period that I'm in the tunnel. I want to do a good handsome Job so that I can support my family in times of my need and also to the needy. I think it is the not the effort but it is the good thought by virtue of pure heart with its true faith and belief makes the goal little smooth and easy. You know why the heavens bless it or may be they like to be part of it and thus it happens.

Within a year it happened. Yes it happened. I got a break during the summer. It was Summer 2004. I got through the interview. I was the most happiest person. I called to Home, families and friends and shared the news that I reached the other end of the tunnel though there is occean but atleast I could see the light. Kites rise highest against the wind - not with it. so the more obstacle I've the more I shine and the more I come up with solutions to be successful.
It's not the size of the dog in the fight, but the size of the fight in the dog. so I always thought to fight the obstacles as it comes in my new career. Even if I fail that's ok because every sunrise is a second chance.


..........................................................................December 2004
This new oppurtunity to make better life is a succession of lessons, which must be lived to be understood. I can't finish this thousands of miles in one leap, this Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step of hope and faith in belieiving the inner strength. I moved all the way from Chicago to this new place in NorthWest America which is located under the cascade moutains, beautiful puget sound area on the banks of pacific occean, surrounded by islands....yes the beautiful Seattle. Inspite of my fears and my 16 hours of learning every single day including my work...made me feel little confident. I was diligent and few moths made me feel that I can do this job. I never suspected what is in the store of my fate. As they say in Sweden...the afternoon knows what the morning never suspected.

what I learnt in this process is we all don't drown by falling into the water; we drown by staying in the water. We all should come out of what we always thought that I can't do it or can I do it...if we can overcome the inertia of what we are in now we can do what we'll be suprised later. It is still ok if we are achieving some thing in a slow pace but atleast we are moving ahead. you think this: " Be not afraid of going slowly, Be afraid of standing still.

yes I witnessed it and I'm making it happen and I did it. Always remember this: what lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. what the world is today is because of human evolution don't forget that...Mind, Imagination, thought process are somethings that made us today to see the world what it was before. so we've the utmost strength to make a difference in our own small world with our gifted life. I wish good luck to all the readers for the most colorful pages that shall and will come in our lives. What is now is just a momentary or transitory. It is not the fog in the morning that decides the fate for the rest of the day...keep hope and faith...there is a beautiful afternoon and a lovely evening ahead with a romantic night to end it and as I said there is always a second chance in the next sunrise.