Relationships and Soulmates

.....................................................................Heart's Beat time
Love and Relationships are two entities that need to go hand in hand. The most wonderful and the best things in life all depend on relationship; it is our ability to create and maintain for the best to come in our lives. Two persons living together brings a small world into them, success, happiness and the ability to give and receive love all hinge on our relationships. We must have noticed that during our initial phase of our relationship we are really good in keeping up things but it kind withers slowly as the time passes. We take for granted for the most part. That is where we are not fastening the grip, holding the emotions and are being care free. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the the start. But why do we so often stumble down the road? Why relationships develop such challenging problems? Why? Don't we understand the importance of it. What is the difference when you are in love before marriage versus when you are in love after marriage? Is that Love different? What is that makes us different persons in the same love during different periods of our relationship?

Different people will have different reasons but for the most part there could be one most common cause our own inner self. It is through our relationships, including intimate love relationships, family relationships, work relationships, and all others we interact with, that we see reflections of our inner self, and learn the laws of cause and effect. Our heart desires so many things and eagerness for its fulfillment can cause the relationship to go in either ways. The vital desire to fulfill thy human heart in growing sense of intimacy, love and tenderness with a beloved is all time the most sweetest thing. There's a longing for a union of spirit, soul and body which would allow the passion, pleasure and playfulness of the cosmos to dance through our being, to assist us in re-awakening to our innate divinity, to dissolve feelings of separation, isolation, and assist us in manifesting our soul purpose.

We all might have heard about "True Love" this phrase is yet interesting but more confusing for all you there these days. Often observations of the world today seem to indicate that there are more people getting divorced, getting cheated on, and breaking up than there are happy couples that are in love and stay in love. If we base our idea of what true love is on children's fairy tales, we might think that finding prince charming or an enchanting princess and living happily ever after is the ultimate goal. Movies often portray this same storybook image- that falling in love is really just that: falling, out of control, toward that one person who is meant to be with you and you alone. But for most mortals, striving for such ideals is unrealistic, and may even leave us feeling unfulfilled or let down. The reality is that being and staying in love takes continual work and patience, even though this might not seem utterly romantic, in that storybook sense. Couples who have healthy relationships find ways of working together, and this in and of itself could be considered a sign of true love.

True love is so powerful that we can only feel it if we are in. It's true that in many cultures, people who are "in love" create long-term partnerships and/or get married. We may hear of the ever-rising divorce rate, but lots of these couples do actually stay together. Yes, there are couples that have been married for 70 years and still feel passionately in love, and there are others who care deeply for one another even though the lust is gone( or maybe never existed). These long-lasting relationships really do exist, but we just don't hear about them as often. Most of the time, people talk more about the break-ups than the relationships that maintain themselves over many years because it makes far more interesting( and profitable for media) gossip. Of course, sometimes we may not even want to hear about the happy, lovely-dovey couples because we're feeling romantically unlucky or lovelorn ourselves.

We change as an individual a whole lot as we grow. That holds true also when we are in a relationship. It could be selfish, more desires or more able ones but we never look deep enough in the present relationship and work hard to stay in it. Most relationships don't last are as varied as the different kinds of people we are; in many cases, the partners simply grow apart because they have grown and changed as individuals, and seek different, more fulfilling opportunities for love. If a particular couple "falls out of love", yet each partner goes on to seek a more satisfying love with another person, could this be an example of "true love" in action?

Love can also vary by degrees: some couples feel deeply intense and passionate, while others appreciate one another for intellectual reasons or admire one another's ambition, dedication, or creativity. When is the last time you read a fairy tale where the main characters appreciated each other's brilliant musicianship, eloquent writing, or compassion for humanity? ( Well, maybe in Shakespeare's writings). God has created for every human being their soul mate it is how we handle it and it is our own karma's that will determine things. Yes it is true. Sometimes we don't know how to recognize our soul mate and that is very normal because we are different human beings during different periods and phases of our lives. We can feel the connection right away when we see the other person or it may take time to feel it but we will ultimately feel it because our manual tells us that these feelings and spiritual signals are and how to recognize them when we meet or think about them. For some they realize when their soul mate is gone from their lives. Some just look into it as a benefit, how comfort it is to maintain the relationship, they always fool themselves regarding their soul mate. I knew a lady who traveled all the way from America to Europe to find her soul mate. For a relationship to work or to be with your soul mate needs lots of work, patience and effort. In relationship we enter not to get something out of it, to give to care, to love and to be loved. We enter in to relationship to see the real happiness of being together with soul mate, to offer more everyday and the feel that love which is a gift and right which we are blessed with. The beauty of being in relationship with soul mate is: Soul mates are lovers who are twin souls or like a part of you- your other half. They are two people created for and with each other in mind. Unless they are together, they will always feel empty even in another relationship. This relationship makes both of them feel complete and fulfilled. Soul mate lovers have been found to be much happier, live longer and enjoy better intimacy. Soul mates increase each others self esteem and confidence and live longer and healthier.

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